Friday, April 2, 2010

Good Works and Creativity- April newsletter

If I had a single flower for every time I think about you,
I could walk forever in my garden. ~Attributed to Claudia Ghandi

Chance is always powerful, let your hook always be cast;
in the pool where you least expect it, there will be a fish.

Turn your face to the sun and the shadows fall behind you. ~Maori Proverb

Have I really not sent an email for almost 3 months! Oh, my. Sorry about that.

I have a hard time in the spring. It is beautiful, with all the trees in bloom and little shoots of hopeful flowers peeking out of the mud. But the change in temperature reminds me that it will soon be May. Gabriel was stillborn the week of Mother's Day. I feel myself wanting to curl up in a ball and go to bed.

And so, I try to look outside of myself. To motivate myself to do some good in the world. At least for the weeks leading up to Gabriel's day I try to give to others. On his day itself I allow myself to shut down and make it all about me, but for the next few weeks I try to give.

I have heard the idea of creating our children's legacy. The idea that our kids are not here to create their own legacies themselves, so we have the responsibility to do it for them. By our kindness projects and acts of service.

I am always amazed by the generosity and creativity of grieving moms. That in the midst of their grief, they are able to reach out and help someone else. Way to go, moms! Your kids are proud of you.

There is no way to list all of the good works going on out there, but let me just highlight a few. Click their links to find out more info. If you have a project you are doing, I'd love to hear about it- send me the information and I'll post it on my blog.

Stephanie has the Sweet Pea Project, in memory of her daughter Madeline. She collects blankets to donate to hospitals.

Kathryn at Expectant Hearts blog has her project, Something for Seth, where she is collecting onesies, socks and pillowcases to donate to her hospital. They just remembered Seth's 2nd birthday, but it is my understanding this is an ongoing project.

Lisa's Waterfall Angels started in memory of her son Jasper. I love the gorgeous photo she did for Gabriel.

Lea's Angel Wings memorial boutique, in memory of her son Nicholas. I love the photo of Gabriel's wings she sent me.

The on-going project of my sister and I: Aloha Remembered. If you'd like your child's name written in the sand in Hawaii we'd love to do this for you. We do charge a small amount and then donate from the profits.

And I know many of you participate in March of Dimes in memory of your children. Send me your link and I'll post it on my blog.

((Hugs)) to all moms missing their children today.

1 comment:

Kelly said...

Hello Emily,
Im pretty new to your blog - its beautiful. May is a very hard month for me too...I find myself struggling - already. Our second daughter was born on May 24, 2007. It was a long, difficult and traumatic labor and delivery..only to find out that she was not healthy and needed to be transported to a childrens hospital 45 min. away. At that time my mom and husband realized someone had stollen our car from the hospital parking lot - so even *remembering* the day of her birth is brutal on my aching heart. She spent 4 months in the hospital only to be sent home on hospice care. She died on Oct 27, 2007 - the day before my birthday. This May she would be turning 3 years old..I can't even imagine her at 3. I plan on looking at everyones neat ideas on leaving a legacy for their children! We are getting ready to send out little fliers to our family and friends asking for donations to help purchase wagons for the hospital our precious girl was at for 4 months. We are calling it "Liberty's Wagons... Leaving a trail of love behind" - but we still have some work to do over the next few days before we send out fliers. I hope to post it to my blog too! If I am able to, I will let you see it all put together! Anyway. I plan on spending LOTS of time on your blog tonight - it looks wonderful!

Love, hugs and many prayers for you! I would love to hear back from you - my email is

God bless,