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This month is kind of a getting to know you post over at Under the Tree

Hair Color: Currently brownish reddish but last time I went to the salon I went crazy and got a few bright burgandy extentions

Eye color: brown

Profession: I've got about 8 jobs; it makes my tax guy crazy. Some include production assistant for The Real Estate Book, recording secretary for a homes corp, and working at a theater camp for kids during the summer. I have my daycare license. I make about 100 bucks a year at each of them

Relationship status: Married


My Favorites:

Favorite color: black for clothes. red for food

Favorite movie: Happy Gilmore is one I always stop on if I'm flipping channels and come across it

Favorite animal: wild birds

Favorite store: 7-11. I love the quick snack fix available 24/7

Favorite childhood memory: One year the first morning of spring break we were all hanging around and my mom said "Hey, do you guys feel like going down to Florida? Go get your stuff" and we grabbed our swim suits and packed a quick bag and hopped in the car. It is like a 15 hour drive from Maryland to Daytona Beach ;0)

Favorite hobby: reading

Favorite song/singer: What I Like About You by the Romantics and Come On, Eileen by Dixies Midnight Runners. 80's stuff

Favorite book/author: so many, so many but maybe A Prayer for Owen Meany and then the Outlander series

Favorite school subject: English, I guess, but I was an Anthropology major

Favorite vacation destination: any hotel with room service

Favorite food: mini snickers bars

Favorite restaurant: Bob Evans or anywhere to get breakfast for dinner. I love biscuits and gravy


This or That


Coke or pepsi : I used to drink a ton of diet cola but haven't been able to take it at all since my last pregnancy. weird

Beer or wine: neither

Coffee or tea: neither

Apple Juice or O.J.: OJ real watered down with ice

Summer or Winter: winter but really fall

Cats or dogs: neither, I'm allergic (and by that I mean I dislike them. You say you dislike animals and people think you are one step up from being a mass murderer. You say you are allergic and people feel sorry for you)

Salty or sweet: sweet. and by that I mean chocolate

Plane or boat: plane

Morning or night: morning

Money or love: I'd love to have money

Breakfast or dinner: breakfast for dinner

Forgiveness or revenge: duh

House or apartment: townhouse

Like to cook: no


Have You Ever:


Got a speeding ticket: Yes,

Wished you were someone else: not usually

Cried during a movie: yes. lots

Describe yourself in one word:

Biggest fear: fire. running out of time. dinosaurs. sharks

Biggest mistake: not enjoying my 20s when I was there

Your proudest accomplishment: traveled around Europe by myself.

Dream job: getting paid to travel- writing guidebooks or reviewing resorts or something

Special talents: I don't know. I can usually see both sides of an issue

Where would you rather be at the moment: getting a pedicure. Or back in bed for a nap.

Famous person you want to meet: Stephen King. David Letterman. the Mythbusters guys

Song to be played at your funeral: God be With You til We Meet Again

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How long has it been since you lost your child/ren? Has your grief changed at all? Is your life becoming any easier or is it just harder as time passes?

Sunday will be 7 years. Unreal. Life has become easier, except for a month or so around Gabriel's due date.


How do you feel when you see pregnant women when you are out and about?
Like I want to run up and tell them to enjoy every second of their pregnancy- don't take it for granted because sometimes it is over all too soon.

What's your therapy in the aftermath of losing your child/ren? Do you go to counseling? Do you do artwork or some kind of exercise or do you simply just let yourself be? What helps you?

I do not really do artwork and have never gone to counseling. I spend time at SHARE message boards and writing my blog as an online journal.

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How long have you been blogging for? Why did you start? What do you want from writing? I started blogging in Nov 2008. I have had my site www.PregnancyLossRibbons.com for several years but it was becoming unweildy to share so much of the info I wanted to share. And a blog was born. I want.. a place to express myself. To put down in print the conversations I hold daily in my head. And to perhaps help another mom or two along the way.



Where is safest place for you to share your feelings? Is there anywhere you feel completely accepted just being however you are really feeling? I have always felt most welcomed at SHARE. I pop in and out of other loss sites but have never felt as welcomed at other sites as I have felt at SHARE

Can you recommend any books that you have read that have given you a new insight, hope or courage in this new life you find yourself in? I look over at my bookshelf as I write this. There are a few that have been particularly helpful. In the early days: Help, Comfort & Hope after Losing Your Baby in Pregnancy or the First Year by Lothrop. Empty Cradle, Broken Heart: Surviving the Death of Your Baby by Davis. and most recently An Exact Replica of a Figment of My Imagination by McCracken

How would you describe yourself before you lost your baby. How have you changed, who are you today? Before I was.. pretty naive. Kind of purposeless. Now.. I am more compassionate and more patient. I think. I try to be, at least.

How do you think you are coping? Do you see any light in this road or is it all dark right now? Where do you imagine yourself to be in a years time? I am mostly in a good place. It has been nearly 7 years. Only, every year at the new year I feel a slippery slide down until we are past Gabriel's date. This year it is on Mother's Day. Double Whammy. In a year.. I hope to be even stronger.