I'm about 6 weeks out from Gabriel's day- I can't believe we are going on 7 years. Unreal.
I was thinking back to the early days. The shock. The numbness. The two-steps-forward, one-(or two or three)steps-back.
How do you help someone through those early days? What were some of the little landmines? Is there any way to 'prepare' someone for these? To make life just a little easier?
Some things that I remember being very difficult (some unexpectedly so) for me were:
Going out in public and fearing I'd run into someone I'd have to tell
Getting the mail (and the formula samples and the 'Congratulations!' mailers)
Getting a phone call from my dentist telling me I didn't 'take my dental hygiene seriously' because I asked to reschedule our appointment the day I got home from the hospital.
Seeing pregnant women (and infants) everywhere- Target, the grocery store
Being asked "How many kids do you have?" and not having an answer prepared
Telling my then 4 and 5 year old kids that we were not going to have a new baby. And the very honest reaction of my 5 year old daughter as she started to scream "But he just didn't have a chance to live!"
The middle of the night
The 6 week follow up doctor's visit
What were some things that were most difficult for you?