Tamara emailed me, asking: "This is out first year without Luci and the 1 year anniversary of her death and I wanted to do things differently to find a way to inlcude her and her sister that died in '96. I was wondering what you did different at the holidays if anything after your baby died. Would you be willing to share your ideas with me? Thanks!"
I have heard several wonderful ideas of how to remember our babies at holiday time. And let me say, for me that starts at Thanksgiving. I haven't done all of these. Heck, that first year I was lucky to be out of my pjs and participating at all.
I love the idea to have a toast at dinner to remember all the family members not at the table. How wonderful! It can mean different things to different people.
Some people participate in an angel tree project or toys for tots. Some people make a donation to a charity of their choice.
Some people hang up a stocking with their child's name on it and ask family members to a service or write a note to put in the stocking. These can be read together as a family.
Some people include their baby in their holiday card by using a sticker or stamp that has special significance like a star, an angel or a butterfly.
I'd love to hear your ideas. What will you do?